Saturday, 30 July 2011

Unconditional Love

       I was in a dilemma as to what should be the title of my next blog. Ideas and thoughts kept flashing in front of me. Then one fine day I chanced upon the term 'Unconditional Love'. Oh yes, this sounded interesting and there and then I decided that this would be my next blog. So here I am l talking  about Love - Unconditional Love.
       We live in a society that speaks openly about the negatives and treats the positives as forbidden. We are allowed to complain and crib publicly but not to discuss our successes. Its okay to say, ''I wish I was beautiful" but its considered 'bragging' to say "I am beautiful". Its unthinkable to tell people that you are gifted or that your children are wonderful or that you have a wonderful love life and that your spouse loves you unconditionally. We are taught that sharing good things about ourselves with others is 'bragging', which is socially inappropriate. 'Good' here is considered a taboo.
       We all want to be loved. We long for love and will go to any length to have it in our lives. Unconditional love - the forever kind of love of dreams and fairy tales - can only become real when we set it free from expectations and limitations. Unconditional love is love without conditions, love without any encumbrances. Our expectations of love limit it. The conditions we put on it stops its flow. Unconditional love is something which is often elusive. It is also something that people mistakenly believe they feel until something comes along that happens to be the condition on which their love fails. Incidentally, unconditional love is very rare in romantic relationships. It is however very common in healthy family relationships. Unconditional love is a term that means to love someone regardless of the loved one's qualities or actions. The paragon of unconditional love is a mother's love for her baby. Perhaps our pets' love for us is the best example of unconditional love.
       I feel if you really want to experience great love or 'Big Love' as some like to call it, get rid of any notions you might hold about how love should be. Allow love to show up on its own terms in its own sweet and simple way. Try to remain open and flexible. Holding someone to a roster of expectations will dampen their ardor faster than a bucket of cold water. I believe, there's only one kind of love that can fill us up, make us whole and give us happiness. We all need to be loved. We think about it, hope for it, fantasize about it and go to great lengths to achieve it. To quote Deepak Chopra from 'Ageless Body, Timeless Mind' - Love is considered the most basic emotion that human awareness can feel; therefore, it is closest to the source of life. The burst of well-being that you feel when you fall in love is due to the fact that you unconsciously open the channel of awareness that allow more Prana (life force) to flow.
       Isn't it funny, we expect and demand someone to give us what we are not willing to give - 'Unconditional Love'. If unconditional love is showing support for one person then does it have to do something with self-sacrifice too?


  1. welcome to the world of blogging is addictive and i wish you happy blogging....i blog at

  2. Thanx a lot anupam ,this sure is addictive ...but i guess one doesn't mind this addiction ..I'll surely check - out your blog .

  3. The reason why everyone wants love so because its the closest thing to magic that we humans have....Nicely worded and beautifully expressed blog.....

  4. @my better 75% minds it mam....

  5. The only love worthy of a name is unconditional.The only way love can last a lifetime is if it's unconditional. The truth is this: love is not determined by the one being loved but rather by the one choosing to love.
    Abhilasha,you have conveyed a lot to lost souls !!!!
    happy blogging