Saturday 21 April 2012

No Regrets

  Hey friends I am back, after a looooong hiatus. It's sunday today and I decided to pen down my thoughts after so much of thinking and yes their surely is something that instigated me to scribble. It's not that I did not have anything to write for so long but I simply did not feel passionate enough to write .So much happens in our daily lives, so much that it sometimes makes us happy or sad.Whenever something happens , we console ourselves by saying that 'whatever happens , happens for good ". I think when you are 'hit' at the right place that's when the words and feeling start flowing out. NO, not that I have been hurt by someone's words , frankly I am the last person to get affected by it all. I feel when you give too much of importance to someone , that's the time you make yourself vulnerable and are susceptible to all the nonsense.,

  I often think that ...why do we all repent , regret,sulk and brood so much over our past  or present doings. Few days back I read a quote that said, " never regret because at one point it was exactly what you wanted  in life ".I simply love this quote and it actually set my mind thinking. One really needs to make oneself stronger to lead a happy life. Life is harsh at times....but it's OK. Everything happens  for a reason. People change so that we can learn to let go, things go wrong so that we appreciate them when they are right, we believe lies so we eventually learn to trust no one but ourselves , and sometimes good things fall apart so that better things can fall together. I have a close friend who despite all the usual problems in life, is ever smiling , full of energy and a big support. She is a real sweetheart. I love the energy in her. While talking to another friend yesterday ,who's been going through a bad phase in  life , I tried to advice her/ him  but in vain. No amount of  consolation worked for him/ her. He/she seemed in a self pity mood. At such a time if you don't take stock of things, you loose a friend for ever. According to him/ her , he/she is surrounded by selfish people. Well in that case ,aren't we all ? Is it so difficult to distinguish between a friend and a foe ?  for me no, but I don't know about others. Making friends is easy but preserving a friendship is very difficult. We must learn to value friendship. My father says, living with regrets is like driving a car which moves only in reverse.

     If good times don't last ,then so do the bad times. One must learn to take things in their stride. Live a 'regret free' life. It's all a learning experience. Like all human beings I too must have gone wrong at times, but then I never regret, as I have learnt to take responsibility for my actions.